How to be more confident online by being more real online
You may have heard that being more confident on the internet has become an increasingly popular thing.
While it’s true that being online more is often more enjoyable than being offline, it doesn’t mean you’re necessarily being more authentic or having better social skills.
While you might be getting a bit more done on your computer than on a couch, it’s still not as productive.
In fact, it can make you feel like a loser.
In a study published this week in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that people who were less confident online were more likely to feel less validated online than people who seemed more confident.
This finding is especially important when you consider that online social skills aren’t always well understood.
For example, while the Internet is generally seen as a platform where we interact with others online, the study found that self-confidence is often misunderstood.
For many people, they are less confident than they seem online.
To make matters worse, it may be hard to find the right social skills to be confident online, and that can make it difficult to build your confidence and self-esteem online.
Here are five things you can do to become more confident when you’re online.
Keep your eyes open online.
Many studies show that people tend to overestimate their own abilities online, which makes sense considering how many tasks people have to juggle while online.
But while we may be more motivated to show off our skills online, we also tend to underestimate the people around us.
“There’s a lot of misinformation about how people feel online, so it’s important to pay attention to what your peers are doing,” says Lauren Lehrman, a psychology professor at the University of California, Irvine.
If you want to become a better online person, you should be paying attention to your peers.
“Your peers may be less likely to be as confident online as you are,” she adds.
“If you are going to be the face of your online persona, you need to be able to stand out.”
Use your voice.
People often assume that when you speak online, you are a speaker of your own voice, so you need a way to communicate.
If someone doesn’t respond to your voice, you might just be giving them an opportunity to be rude or insensitive.
“In a lot more serious conversations, people might be thinking, ‘Oh, that’s not the person I’m talking to,'” Lehrmann says.
Instead, try to use your own words.
“Make sure that you’re using the right voice, and your voice is being heard,” Lehr-man says.
“Try to use a neutral tone, and use the right words.”
Listen to others.
It’s easy to feel like your voice doesn’t matter when talking to others online.
“People tend to take it for granted that they’re on their own when it comes to being online,” says Sarah Geddes, a social media consultant who works in the field of online personal training.
“They’re not really thinking about how to make themselves feel better when they’re online.”
But if you’re having a bad day online, it might be time to consider that you might actually be contributing to someone else’s negative online experience.
“Even when you use a positive voice, people may take it as a compliment,” Leahman says, because they’re thinking that you have a sense of humor or you’re not that bad at social interaction.
“I think that you want your voice to be a compliment, but if you have negative online experiences, you want them to be positive,” she says.
You might also want to think about the consequences of your actions online.
If it turns out that you were rude to someone, for example, you can ask yourself why.
“Sometimes, people don’t feel comfortable talking about what they’re feeling online, but I think that’s where a lot goes wrong when it happens,” Lehman says in a phone interview.
“When people are being rude online, they don’t necessarily feel comfortable saying it out loud.
And if you don’t have the time or energy to talk about it, you may not be able bring yourself to do it.
So I think it’s really important to get to know yourself as a person and find a way that you can get better at it.”
Use social media to get more done.
Being more confident about your online presence can help you feel more comfortable, which is especially helpful if you are working on a project or a project-related activity.
You may find that the people you interact with online are more open and receptive to your feedback and suggestions.
“The more you can be able put yourself out there, the more likely you are to get better feedback,” Leerhman explains.
“And it also makes it harder for others to say things that you don: ‘I can’t believe that you didn’t do that.'”
Be mindful of how others perceive you online.